What brought you to The Thrive Programme?
When I was 18 I made the decision to end my life and stepped out in front of a lorry. I was in an incredibly low place, I didn’t think I had anyone to turn to, I was struggling massively with my sexuality, and the idea of a future, actually I didn’t want one. It was 3 years after this I started Thrive. It looked very different to anything I’d seen before. It looked incredibly positive straight away.
So how did you get on with doing Thrive?
Obviously after seeing a lot of counsellors, psychologists, etc., you become quite reserved about different types of help and it’s quite difficult to go in open minded. But I went in anyway and it’s just a completely different approach that Thrive has to making you feel better – it’s just so refreshing. It’s so reassuring. Straight away we assessed why I’d gone there, assessed that I had not got the help I needed, and we focused on the ‘now’.
What did you get out of going through The Thrive Programme?
We worked on social anxiety and self esteem. My self esteem was rock bottom, you probably wouldn’t be able to detect it, it was that low. It’s so simple. It’s almost really frustrating that you don’t see it beforehand. There are core things that just completely change your life. Being able to solve things yourself, and being internally driven, to know that if I have a problem, it’s okay and I’m going to fix it myself, and then the happiness and pleasure you get from knowing you’ve solved that by yourself and you didn’t need someone to hold your hand over the whole thing. That’s massive.
What surprised you?
Knowing you don’t have to reflect on your years of sorrow for the rest of your life – that’s irrelevant. I never ever believed that. I had a constant belief that because I’d been through a lot of adversity when I was younger, and because I’d been through a lot of life changing things that they had to affect me for my whole future. They don’t. I can genuinely say I am the most confident, the most comfortable, and the most content I have been in my life.
Does The Thrive Programme work?
It seems like a massive statement ‘Change your life’, and it is massive. But it’s done so simply. It’s done by changing your beliefs and changing your thinking patterns, and changing the way you think about yourself. Thrive opens up your eyes to make you realise what sort of person you can be. You have so many tools and resources that are brought to you through Thrive that you use to create a better life, and it’s you that does it.
I can quite happily say that Thrive has changed my life but essentially it’s you that does it. Thrive is the programme that sees you through, guides you, and you individually are the person that changes your life.
I’m now in the process of training to be a firefighter, I work as a personal trainer now, I play football every week, I go to the gym every day, I have a circle of amazing friends, a good solid part of my family as well. Life for me at 22, considering at 18 I tried to end it, couldn’t get much better. I am completely grateful to Rob and Thrive for giving me the opportunity and the tools to learn to do that.